Beh Tahan

Basically I'm a gentle person *cough cough* and I don't bite.....much!

It's true ar! I often mould myself to meet other people's need instead of making other people to change for me.

But there are some people I find I can never get along with. No matter how hard I tried.(Yes I did!)

My beh-tahan list:

1. Someone who wanna outbeat you in EVERTHING.

Basically I consider this kinda person my fan because she will ALWAYS keep an eye on your daily activities and to do everything you do if not better! She just has to keep track of everything you do even it's just a bean-small matter.

e.g. "Omg she dyed her hair Imma do that too and of course I'll DEFINITELY look better than her in that colour!" 

"Oh no, she had just bought a water bottle without me knowing! Wonder what else she does without telling me!"

Seriously she doesn't have to worn herself out(maybe she enjoys it very much!)doing all these. If she hates me, why doesn't she just leave me alone and pretend she can't see me at all? Seriously, she is just an green-eyed monster.

2.  People that demands so much from you but will NEVER do the same as return a.k.a. Wan Ban.

The title says it all. When you want someone to do something for you, put yourself in her shoes and THINK whether you'll do the same.

I treat my friends well, I'm generous with them and I don't expect a return.(Provided they are not someone who wanna keep you by her side just in case needs arise.)

3. Someone Mistrustful.

I used to have a friend who is just SO doubtful of everything you tell her, be it big or small matters.When you tell her it's so and so, I don't know how her brain works, she'll ask you back tonnes of questions and make her own conclusion that you are lying. It's just so annoying being constantly ASSUMED to be lying.Hello, why do I have to lie to you on such small matters?

Sometimes when I talk to her I just have to be extra careful of words used because I'll never know what she's after. She might be asking about matter A but in fact she's testing whether you are lying about matter B(And this happens very often). Wonder how her bf stands her.She is one of a kind(in a sarcastic way).

Don't ask if you don't believe in the first place.

4. Someone possessive.(Similar to No.1, she is my fan)

"You are my friend and anything you do you ought to do it with me."

e.g. You can't go find your friend when I'm around.Any activities you do you ought to let me know and to invite me.

5. Someone boastful.

No one likes this kinda people I believe. If you are great there is NO NEED to tell others you are great. Actions speak louder than words.

6. Someone who likes insulting (without even looking at herself first?)

This is a true story ar.(After I tell the story everyone will know who she is.....No! She isn't who you think she is!!!)

When we first joined the class, she thought everyone's language proficiency wasn't up to par. She then said loudly at the back of the class.

"So weak la(Cha Dao Si!) everyone's English in this class, compared to my previous class!"

And she didn't care at all if anyone else heard that.

I was like, walao! Hope no one thought I said that since I was sitting at the back of the class too.

I quickly said in a low voice.

"Why you say like that? Even our own English isn't very good."

I said 'our'. She said that while she pronounced 'YAgurt' instead of 'yogurt', 'DOUUphin' instead of 'dolphin' and 'YAOth' instead of 'youth'??

I'm not saying I'm good but it really gets on my nerves when I'm constantly hearing things like that(criticizing and insulting).

So there was once, she has finally got the chance to go to this Dolphin Cafe I've mentioned, and specially make an announcement to me saying how bad it was.(as usual)

I, with a sudden outburst, said "Where did you go again?"

"DOUUphin." (as in Do, Re, Mi, Fa...)

"Dolphin la what DOUUUUphin!!!!"

If you happened to overhear the above conversation, I'm not usually like that k, I'm  a very gentle person. *cough cough*

P/S: P/S: DO NOT ASK.

Dominant girlfriends

I always think dominant girlfriends are annoying.

Story started with a close male friend of mine who finally got a girlfriend at the age of 24. As expected, he really pampered the gf to the max. The guy was very soft type and the gf was very dominant. The gf knew the existence of me since the beginning. At that time, the guy and I were colleagues. We often went to work together and often kept in contact by sms-ing. The gf somehow thought I was a threat to their relationship. She monitored his sms-es closely and sometimes when I called the guy, she picked up the phone and refused to pass the phone to the guy.

I hate girlfriends who pick up boyfriends' calls!!!!

Like, hello! I wasn't calling for you, bitch! and I didn't want to talk to you either. I called the guy not without a reason. And hey! He is your bf but at the same time, he is my friend too!! We have known even before he met you!! Can't an attached guy have female friends??

What pissed me off the most was this incident....


There was once I forwarded 2 funny sms-es to the guy because we always exchanged sms-es. What I didn't know was the phone wasn't with the guy but with her. She was not happy, why I had to send so many (in fact only 2) sms-es to her 'belonging'. She must have interprated this as my act to seduce her bf. She then replied me with the bf's phone.



Bitch(Which I thought was my friend): Hello! So free?

Me: Ya, today is holiday.

B: Not going out today?

Me: Just came back from giving tuition. How about you?

B: Oo, I'm at home alone. (Alone? Must be to trick me into believing we are safe to talk) You are so hardworking, it must be really lucky to be your bf.

Me: (Thinking my friend was being funny) You are right! hahaha.

B: Why don't you be my gf then? haha.

Me: (I smelled something fishy) You must be kidding. Don't let your gf see this or you'll die!

B: Haha, I know my gf is very fierce, unlike you. (Must be cursing me in heart)

Me: Are you ok? You sound weird, are you really ***(friend's name) ?

B: Haha, I was just kidding, I gotta go, bye! (suddenly got busy)




Then I knew it must be her!! I called, to check who was on the other end. She hung up.

I was really fuming, felt like killing.

Few days later, the guy admitted that it was the gf that day.

And the guy thought the gf should be forgiven cause it showed she cared about him. -_-

Unbelievable!

I'm the most idiotic person in the world. I found out that this particular ****er(it must be him, can't be anyone else) had been logging into my friendster account to read my messages, deleting them(but stupid enough to leave them in the trash and to let me find out two years later)and I also suspect him removing a few friends from my friend list.

Just now, out of the blue moon, I had a sudden urge to find out what I had in the message trash in friendster. And I clicked on the last page of it, there were unread messages from my ex-ex-bf which I don't recall deleting them, at least not before reading them. I looked at the date, that was two and a half years ago. WTF. I'm so slow.

Then, I checked on the rest of the messages, there were a few more unread messages from guys, either saying hi or asking for email. And I had no idea they had all gone straight into the trash. And I also found out one of them who sent me msg was once in the friend list and has now gone. I think all these can be linked up.

I don't know how long he had been doing this. Probably for years. I think you probably know who this 'fun cheong' I'm referring to by now. I feel sick even to admit he is my ex-bf.

I'd never given him the password, he probably got it by peeping when I typed it.

Not that I care about those msgs! But I'm so horrified that all these happened for such a long period without me knowing at all! Like all of a sudden, you realise someone has been creeping into your house all the while, stealing away your lingerie and knowing all your privacy.

He actually also liked to read my messages in my hp. And deleting msgs from guys(I have to say I'm not flirty at all, only one or two closer ones!), even they were just some forwarded msgs. And to delete their contacts from my hp. I knew he did all these but had never brought them up. Because I was just like that, even if I don't like something I seldom voice them out(typing them out is different story).

I Got Stood Up.

I'm supposed to get my SE k660i today, I'd arranged a COD with the girl. When I was about to reach the place, I sms-ed her to ask whether she was on the way, then she said she already sms-ed me that she couldn't get the stock, -_-|||. I did NOT receive anything.

I went all the way there and you didn't turn up, why so irresponsible wan??

Lousy Bank

I went to BSN today to buy some pin for my friend. I really hate this BSN branch nearby my house, the staffs are so rude. There was a few times when I left the bank, I kept cursing them in my mind.

Today, I'm supposed to pay RM5 for the pin and I had only three RM1 notes with some coins, so I took out my RM10 note to pay her, then she said, 'bagi duit kecil, kita tak de change'. I was like, 'wah. kesianya, bank ape ni? Duit pun tak de.' In front of her, I reluctantly dug out all my coins for her, then only she felt paiseh. What if I didn't have small change with me at all? Where else I can get small change? This is a f bank, ok?? Or you expect me to come again the next day?

So, this is what friend is all about.

Some friends, you had lost contact with them for awhile, then suddenly, you got a sms from, say her, she doesn't ask whether you are doing well or to ask out to 'yumcha', BUT these people, they are more concern, which I feel very annoyed, on matters like whether you are still going out with the same guy, whether you have fallen out with the guy or whether you have got a new one.

Ok don't tell me 'Maybe she just wanna recommend you a guy if you have none' kinda thing. I'm not sure about the guys but I find girls really like gossip about all these. They really like to 'jaga tepi kain orang'. Why would you want to know all these when you don't even care how is your friend's life, studies and etc.?

So, I reckon they would be happy to hear 'Oh, I've got dumped!', 'Damn, he cheated on a girl with me!', 'There is an accident and I'm getting married soon' sort of answers.

Afterall, these are more interesting topics to bitch around??

P/S: My bad, I'm over-sensitive and nasty.

No Luck in Friendship

I'm so shocked on how much or how sudden a person could change.

I think it's human nature that one always see ONLY bad things about others.

P/s: Of course I also try to work out what is wrong with my part, maybe I was being reckless as a friend at times that I didn't realise which caused her a resentful person? *shrug*



P/s, P/s: I deleted the main part of this post, because i think it's a little too 'aggressive' to be posted here, i dont want 'her' to have hard feeling on me, will re-post after editing.